If you are submissive and still single after searching for more than a year, clearly you are doing something wrong. Do you realize how many extremely beautiful dominant women I know that are frustrated with the lack of sincere potential mates for them?
The Internet is chock full of eligible submissive men, all waiting for the femdom of their dreams to come to sweep them off their feet and put them on their knees where they belong. At the same time, there are countless frustrated and cranky subs lamenting how many “fake” femdoms are out there, how often they are used for their money, or how femdoms keep ghosting them on social media or stopped replying just after things start to look good.
If you are submissive and still single after searching for more than a year, clearly you are doing something wrong. Do you realize how many extremely beautiful dominant women I know that are frustrated with the lack of sincere potential mates for them? Your jaw would drop (and not just because you want it filled up with latex cock).
Here are a few observations from the other side of the whip. If you are submissive and still single, there may be a few of the reasons why:
You aren’t being honest with yourself or your potential partners
The biggest “little white lie” I see told by single submissive men seeking a femdom partner is that they are, well, single. Here’s the deal. If you are married, have a girlfriend, are “separated” but not divorced or any number of these things, you are not single. That’s called stretching the truth. Stretching your asshole is one thing (and ok in my book), but stretching the truth because you dream of being partnered with a kinky lady is not cool.
If you are looking for some kinky fun, then package it that way. Don’t waste the time of a dominant woman seeking a relationship if you are not emotionally ready for a relationship. There are pro femdoms that can fill that niche. And fill you on both ends, if that’s your kink.
You are waiting for Ms. Femdom Right to swoop in and abduct you
Hey, get out of my fantasy! In my perfect world, that’s how it works, too. I see the man of my dreams, I call up an agency and get hired help and we abduct him, complete with straitjacket and penis gag, and he goes right into my trunk. And no one goes to jail.
In the real world, it doesn’t work that way (ok maybe I tried it once, but let’s not get into that, my attorney advised me not to talk about it). Unfortunately, traditional vanilla rules do come into play here. Even if you know she’s femdom and kinky, you have to engage in some level of courtship to signal your interest (and…uh, consent, if we are talking kidnapping). You may even have to (gasp) ask her out on a date.
You can’t confuse submissiveness with passiveness. If you want something, you have to go after it. That does not mean you are going to be mistaken for dominant, trust me. If you are not making an effort, she may be turned off by your lack of drive. Or, she might not even know you exist.
And remember the golden rule of femdom romance: A female dominant seeks a man who is submissive to her. Not a submissive man.
You need to work on yourself a little bit
Before you get your pink panties in a bunch, at least listen. I’ve met a lot of submissive men. Tons. And even the ones that were not a “fit” for me I saw some excellent and attractive traits in them. Unfortunately, a lot of submissive men are shy or suffer from a bit of lack of confidence. I would say that most submissive men that I would not have considered “femdom ready” in terms of a relationship were just a few minor tweaks from being a total knock out.
The reasons do vary a lot, but the most common challenge I found that submissive men face – when it comes to attracting a very discretionary femdom – is that they do a poor job demonstrating their capabilities. Here’s the thing: Femdoms (and ALL women, for that matter) are attracted to capability. I think femdoms are even more attracted to it because it’s sexy in a “I can’t wait to turn him into a groveling mess” way (complicated, I know, but trust me).
Whatever your strengths are, play into them. Be the best at them. Playing an instrument, excelling in a sport, being at the top of your field in business. Just a lowly video game nerd? Then be the best at it; there’s a reason that in my kinky femdom guild in World of Warcraft (ages ago, a story for another time) my sadistic nerdy girlfriends and I all fought over the slut that topped the damage meter).
If none of these things apply to you and you are STILL submissive and single, then you are just at the wrong place at the wrong time. Don’t limit yourself to looking for potential partners online. Make it a priority to network and meet as many kinky people as you can – with the goal of making friends, first and foremost.
You never know where you might end up.
If it’s blindfolded in the trunk of a car, don’t say I didn’t warn you.
Affectionately,
Akasha